THE END

Well this is the end of my blog, I know it is called 1000 things to think about and is actually only 10 entries. When I began I planned to continue indefinitely with my philosophical entries but have decided that what I have written so far addresses the most integral ideas to my life and would prefer my readers to take in all I have said instead of letting what I believe in be swamped with less important issues. In my bio I mentioned I was a christian though up until now I have left theology out of my posts. My aim for doing this was to show the world how exquisitely beautiful the life Jesus prescribes is, given in philisophical and practical terms. I hope if you have come upon my blog you will take the time to peruse through the ten or so entries I have made.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and a special thank you to Naima @globalunison for being so encouraging and a true supporter.

Kyleegabby xox

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The Social Ladder

The more familiar I become with the nature of humanity the more I am inclined to despair the safety of ourselves and our planet. One particular tendency of human nature has me despairing of late and this is the overiding passion to scramble up the social ladder to a position of power and glory, vain power and glory I might add.

Why is this type of glory more desirable to most than genuine companionship and love?

In my analysis of people of this mind I could only imagine their desire comes from,
1. A superficial value system that values power and status above all else.
2. A secret arrogance that looks down upon their peers and fellowhuman.

Of all the people who have achieved great status in the importance of their influence in history and upon the world, The greatest, most notable, and celebrated people were those who travelled DOWN the social ladder to meet with those at the bottom and when they were then elevated to glory they took with them those they had gone down to meet.

The Reasons Behind

Motives are what drives us to act and speak the way we do. Two people could do and say the exact same things but have very different reasons behind it. What I would like to discuss today is whether it is the action that counts, or the thought behind the action?

Many people would look at an act of charity and assume it was good regardless of the person’s motives, but I would tend to disagree. If a person is kind and generous not out of love, but in order to make themselves feel good, it has a negative effect on the recipient of the ‘charitable’ act. I saw it so often among clients I worked with who had a disability. The workers who were doing it to make themselves feel good were full of ungenuine compliments, sugar coated tones and false kindness. Many people did not pick up that it wasn’t genuine, many even believed the worker to be ‘nice’ but what it creates in the recipient of the false charity is a sense that they are inferior and a feeling of being a charity case without any intrinsic value of their own.

I have come across similar attitudes with many people in all sorts of charitable positions and my advice is if you can’t love and value the people you give to, let someone else help them.

Motives make a huge difference and I honestly believe a mistake made in love is more beneficial then a perfect deed performed in pride.

Until next time, take care.

Choosing Integrity

I always wanted a cosy life, I mean comfortable is such a great feeling. I was comfortable for a while then something changed, the ignorance that had kept me in my cocoon fell away and that was the end of comfortable.

If you are paying attention you will realize what I am getting at, the only way to live comfortably in this world is to live in ignorance. To live a life of integrity is not comfortable because this world spurns anything that challenges it, and one living a life of integrity is more than a challenge, it is a downright threat to the many living without integrity.

Some people look at those who set their face against the wind and strive to fight against the grain and think these people thrive on challenge, and indeed this is the case for some, but for most the choice is not made as a love for challenge, but rather as a love for integrity.

It hurts to be ostracised no matter who you are and this is one of the many sacrifices that one will face when they fight for what is right and true in a world where so many would prefer to live in lies and corruption.

Along with being outcast one will also acquire many enemies, and constantly be at war to stand one’s ground and to believe in oneself.

This life I am speaking about is a call to greatness and is opposite to a cosy life tucked away in the corner of the universe.

There also are rewards for living such a life, though the majority of people will be against you, those who surround you will also be people of integrity, people you can trust with your life, which is something fair weather friends will never be. You will also become a powerhouse of effective and influential living. If you ever wanted to make a difference to the world then standing up for what is right and true is the surest way to make a dent.

There is nothing more powerful in this world of illusion and deceit than the truth, and someone not afraid to live it, speak it.

I have chosen the rarely travelled road of integrity, it is often times tougher, fairly lonely, mostly uphill, but when I have reached my destination it will be upon a pinnacle and not amongst the graves.

Until next time, take care.

Listen to Your Heart

Intuition is something we all have, it’s when we listen to our heart. Mostly it isn’t as mysterious as it seems. Our sub-concious picks up on cues and body language that our concious mind isn’t aware of and we get a feeling about a particular situation or person that we can’t explain with evidence. I used to discount intuition all the time believing I was being judgemental or jumping to unfounded conclusions. Years of ignoring my intuition taught me a very powerful lesson, my gut feeling was nearly always proven right, usually after I had painfully ignored it to my detriment. Today I want to address how to listen more closely to your intuition and, this is very important, how to determine if the voice you are listening to is your intuition or something else.

Lets first talk about what other gut feelings one can get that are deceptive.

1. Stereotypes.

A stereotype is a judgement made about a person based on a superficial quality where you have deemed all people with this quality as being a certain ‘type’. The best way to determine if your feeling is intuition or stereotype is to ask yourself if you hadn’t met that person and someone else described their appearance or label (race religion sexuality career hobbies) to you would you get the same feeling about them. If so then it isn’t intuition, it is your own pre-conceived stereotypes.

2. Irrational fears.

We all have irrational fears and they usually stem from experiences we have had in the past.

For example someone who has been rejected a lot, then meets someone who obviously likes them and cares for them may feel the person is going to reject them because of their own fear and insecurity that they aren’t lovable. The best way to determine if it is your fear or intuition talking is to ask yourself whether you only feel that way because of something that happened in the past or because you are afraid of it happening therefore you have made it a considerable possibility in your mind.

3. Social convention or other people’s opinion.

There is a very loud voice telling us what to think and feel in the form of society. My advice on this one is if you feel or think a certain way because most other people do, or it’s the way it’s supposed to be done but your intuition doesn’t quite agree, go with your intuition. There is no safety in numbers, and majority doesn’t determine what’s right and wrong. Once upon a time it was perfectly normal to bash your wife and children, have sex with children, and perform cruel experiments and torture on those considered less functional than the average member of society.

Our intuition is, as I stated at the start, a sub-concious distinguishing of clues, but it is also our soul speaking to us. (That is the mysterious part.) Some people believe the most concrete form of determining something is with our natural means, (eyes, ears, touch) but to put it bluntly, this world is full of crud.

People say what they want you to hear, they show you what they want you to see, if you rely on what you are seeing and hearing with your eyes and ears you will always be led up the garden path.

Get in touch with your heart, get in touch with your soul and intuition, I assure you, you will see much deeper into other people and situations, BUT don’t forget to test for the other deceptive voices.

Until next time, take care.

The True Measurement of Love

When people speak about wanting love, they usually express sentiments such as, I want someone who spends time with me,’ ‘I want someone who will sit by me when I am sad and hold my hand,’ ‘I want someone who will share my burdens and responsibilities,’ ‘I want someone who would stand up for me.’

All these sentiments have something in common beside the fact that they depict kindness. Indeed the very reason they speak of love to us is because each act expressed is an act of sacrifice.

No one ever says, ‘I want someone who only spends time with me when it’s convenient and takes their fancy,’ ‘I want someone who leaves me crying in my room until I am in a better mood and more fun to hang out with,’ ‘I want someone who won’t share in any of my problems or responsibilities,’ ‘I want someone who runs away when I am threatened so they won’t get hurt as well.’

All these latter sentiments seem the opposite to love but if you look closely all I did was depict a person who wouldn’t sacrifice. Wouldn’t sacrifice his/her time, his/her happiness, his/her comfort, ease and his/her safety.

This leads into my point today; the true measurement of love is sacrifice. Those who sacrifice a little for our sake, like a 20 dollar birthday gift help us feel warm and fuzzy, yet those who sacrifice a lot are the ones who make us feel truly loved, like our parents or grandparents.

Love is an act of sharing and sharing is always a sacrifice, but there is reward in it too. When you give up your time, money, heart, comfort to someone else, you show them unmistakeably, irrefutably that you love them, and your love may very well become their greatest treasure.

Until next time, take care.

P.s. My examples were a bit gender bias. I am sure if you are a guy you can think of equivalent examples.

Hungry Mouths to Feed

It has become apparent to me that we, as a people, are always hungering for something that never satisfies. I would argue that it is because we feed the wrong mouth.

To elaborate on my analogy, we all have three mouths demanding feeding. The first is the appetite, the second is the ego, and the third is the heart.

We feed the appetite by making our natural desires our number one priority. By pursuing them regardless of others, or our own, best interest.

We feed the ego by behaving in ways that are designed to gain attention, or flattery. We might flirt with someone who isn’t our partner, gossip, or be focused on proving ourself right when it isn’t necessary.

We feed the heart by putting the well being of others ahead of our appetite or ego, such as speaking and behaving in ways that are designed to help someone else, (no strings attached) or nurture our relationships.

So, why is it wrong to feed our ego or appetite? Because to do so, we usually have to feed OFF somebody else. We are taking from them physically or emotionally just to make ourselves feel good.

The best way to avoid doing this is to question your behaviour. Before acting ask yourself the question, “What is my aim for what I am about to do/say?”  You may only remember to ask yourself occasionally at first,  but you will soon get the hang of which of your habits is feeding which mouth.

Feeding your appetite or ego comes easily and naturally, we are biologically bent toward selfishness, but I would like to encourage you all to rise above your biology and set your heart on greater things.

Until next time, take care.